Tonight is the night of inspiration for me. Anyway, as I was reflecting on several things, one of the things that dawned on me was the idea of how ‘distances’ do affect the relationship experience of a couple. As I cannot speak much about other people’s experiences, but also as I have had plenty of time recently to reflect on my own relationship experiences, I have realized that there is much truth in this concept.
My first real dating experience ended because it was strained by what I am calling “distances”. In this case by physical and geographical distances. Something like 1,000 miles or more. But despite that aspect, this foundational concept of “distance”, which in my first dating relationship made so many things more difficult, is what I deem to be very important in any type of relationship. Not that it causes all the problems and difficulties, but rather it extenuates or brings them out even more.
In one of my most important dating relations, “distance” was not so much a matter of geographical or space, but rather it was manifested by differences in mentality, background, education and ambitions. This was true on both parts and it continues to intrigue me.
As I said, the main issue is not “distance(s)” itself, but the fact that when it is of a certain measure, then it can affect the relationship in ways which may not always be positive or healthy. To put it another way; it is always healthy to know and understand the “distance(s)” that may exist between two partners in a relationship, not just love or romantic relationships. These “distances” will affect your relationship experience for sure.
I have also learned that as I understand them better, the more I learn to work around or with them in order to build a stronger and healthier relationship experience. At that moment, what becomes most important is the level of commitment of each partner towards the relationship. It is that commitment, which will then help you go the “distance”.
I could go on talking about the importance of “trust” in a relationship experience, but I think that that should be enough for one night.
